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Tom Sandoval opened up about his current relationship with Raquel Leviss on Howie Mandel‘s podcast on Tuesday.
After accusing Ariana Madix of threatening and punching him after secretly dumping her on Valentine’s Day, the Vanderpump Rules star addressed his live-in dynamic with ex-girlfriend Ariana whereas additionally chatting about Raquel’s kiss with Tom Schwartz, wanting again on his sexless relationship with Ariana, and extra.
“This previous yr or so, we’ve each been coping with a number of nervousness and melancholy, and we deal with it very in another way. We’re very totally different individuals,” Sandoval stated of himself and Ariana on the April 11 episode of Howie Mandel Does Stuff. “I don’t know easy methods to clarify it however we simply form of saved rising aside.”
After turning 40, Sandoval began to take a look at his life, which he felt he “accepted.”
“I accepted it. Like okay, [Ken Todd] and [Lisa Vanderpump], they most likely don’t have intercourse on a regular basis,” he reasoned. “You get in a relationship for a very long time, you simply cease having intercourse… So I accepted it. I acquired porn. I can simply go crack one up within the rest room.”
Serving to Sandoval “settle for” his relationship with Ariana was the truth that “there have been so many different perks.”
“The constructing of the model, the all the pieces, the picture of all of it. We did have one another’s backs for certain and that was good,” he admitted. “There was a big-time security to it and stability… however as I turned 40, I began to take a look at my life and it appeared very bleak… I began to lose my optimism in life, my drive… I began to really feel trapped.”
Whereas Sandoval had causes to separate from Ariana, he selected to stay in a relationship along with her — whereas additionally embarking on a months-long affair with Raquel that was finally uncovered in early March.
“I feel it was simply actually surprising,” Sandoval stated of the affair information blowing up within the press. “There’s a number of sh-tty issues that occur within the information on a regular basis. This occurred on a time the place there simply wasn’t so much happening. I imply, hell, CNN’s protecting this? CNN? I watch CNN? I don’t wanna watch this sh-t on f-cking CNN! You suppose I wanna hear about that? No.”
Amid the backlash, Sandoval stated he was snubbed by a variety of his close friends.
“What hurts is that individuals I’ve identified for thus lengthy have taken this chance to deliver skeletons out of the closet from like seven, eight years in the past and I’m similar to, ‘Dude, why would you try this? Why would you attempt to kick me whereas I’m down?’” he questioned. “[They’re] additionally utilizing this to make it appear to be all the pieces I’ve done for them, all of the favors, all of the instances I’ve caught by them when no person else would, to make that out to be that I’m a narcissist and that was all simply so I might look good … It actually f-cking kills [me].”
“I’ve mates that I’m higher mates with than Ariana … they like, don’t even hit me as much as attempt to perceive,” he continued. “Nothing is excusable. I dealt with sh-t incorrect. I f-cked up and I positively deserve the hate however for these shut mates to not even shoot me a textual content and simply go to social media and begin posting issues like, ‘Was I a pawn on this sport?’ It’s simply, so disappointing and unhappy.”
In response to Sandoval, he’s been “so down” in latest weeks and has struggled with “some actually darkish ideas.”
He’s additionally stop consuming.
“I’m doing higher now. I’ve gone like 4 days with out consuming now, which I don’t know the final time I’ve accomplished that. It’s most likely been years. I’m attempting to deal with this in a wholesome manner cuz I used to be consuming to deal with it and it’s not good. It’s a darkish highway,” he admitted.
Though Sandoval’s romantic relationship with Ariana is over, the previous couple remains to be residing collectively of their $2 million home in Los Angeles, which Sandoval confirmed has not but been listed on the market.
“It’s truly been actually, fairly calm currently,” Sandoval stated of their dynamic, continuing to trace that he can’t afford to remain within the dwelling by himself.
“To be completely trustworthy, like, I can’t afford to… [And] I don’t have a number of mates I can stick with proper now, a, and b, like… I additionally, with the home and stuff, I kinda run the home. I deal with the gardening, the housekeeping, my assistant comes and cleans, shares all the pieces,” he defined.
To make sure that they don’t have any awkward run-ins, or at the very least lower down on them, Sandoval and Ariana have enlisted a “go-between,” who they textual content after they plan to maneuver about in the home.
“[We] textual content after we’re coming and going … Generally I keep away however I at all times allow them to know,” Sandoval defined. “I’ve gone out of city a few instances. It’s been okay. [But] initially, it wasn’t nice and I needed to keep away.”
Persevering with on to Schwartz and Raquel’s kiss in Mexico, Sandoval stated Schwartz didn’t know that he and Raquel had already shared a kiss and famous that they solely did so as a result of they’d already confronted a lot backlash from their castmates.
“Schwartz and Raquel had not accomplished something however had been crucified and bullied… after which they’re sitting there at Scheana’s marriage ceremony… and so they’re similar to, ‘F-ck this.’ It was extra like a rebellious factor,” he defined.
However that doesn’t imply Sandoval wasn’t jealous.
“Properly Schwartz kissed her … I used to be just a little jealous… however I used to be not questioning our connection. I used to be extra happy with them for kinda saying ‘f-ck you,’” he defined.
Then, after they acquired again from Mexico and Schwartz assured him he had no emotions for Raquel, Sandoval informed him about their kiss.
As for the place he stands with Raquel at present, Sandoval stated, “We’re actually good mates. We’re not placing any label on it. We’re additionally simply kinda taking, like, a break.”
He additionally stated that they’re not mates of advantages “proper now.”
Vanderpump Guidelines season 10 airs Wednesdays at 9/8c on Bravo.